Since most videos only show the slow-mo version, I wanted to capture the full play from when it happened.

Lunch: Yukon gold potatoes, orange bell pepper and zucchini, an over easy egg, berries and a peach raspberry bubblr over ice

UPDATE: I said in the post "I can't get past this" and I mean that. Maybe that was missed by some folks. I'm not trying to condoning his racism. I am allowed to be sad that a person I'm physically attracted to is racist and therefore I won't date them. I'm not arguing with people in the comments because there obviously isn't anything to argue about. I'm on the same page.

I want to start this by saying I know this is a sensitive topic that people are passionate about. I would love if things could stay cordial.

I (29f) matched with this guy (29m) on hinge last week, we hit it off instantly over text, had a few phone calls before our date (a requirement for me) and I really felt a connection. We went mini golfing and when he showed up I noticed he had a window sticker on his car that was in the shape of Alabama and said "Bama grown" on it but the whole thing was a confederate flag pattern. I immediately was a bit bummed but I am really trying to give people a chance (more on this later). After mini golf we went thrifting and chatted for like 2 hours.

He walked me to my car and I rolled down my window to chat for a few before I left. I mentioned (in a light hearted tone) that I wouldn't be getting back in his truck with that sticker on it and we had a good conversation about it. He explained that he sees the flag as a sign of his southern heritage and that he doesn't display it with ill intent. I explained that perception matters just as much as intent and that the flag carries some pretty negative connotations.

A little background about me: I grew up in a conservative house, not religious conservative but 2nd ammendment, American flag on the porch conservative. I went to college, got my degree in women's studies, and have changed my views considerably. My family is not MAGA, but still conservative for the most part. No one in my family is homophonic, racist, sexist, anything like that, but they are strong believers in the 2nd ammendment and are proponents of less government. I hold different beliefs than my family on most hot button issues regarding politics. We are in the pnw so not exactly red country 😅

A little background on my views about dating: I have been in the dating scene for what feels like forever. I have had times in dating where I was really into the social media stuff of "if he wanted to he would" "if he doesn't pay, open the door, xyz cut him off immediately". I've left dates after 10 minutes because I didn't feel a connection or didn't think he was a good fit and I've cancelled dates before they happened because of yellow or red flags. I'm not saying this isn't a valid way to date by any means it just doesn't feel like it's working for me.

I am trying something new where I actually give people a fighting chance instead of cutting them off after 1 negative thing. I feel insane even saying this, because it's not revolutionary, I'm just retraining myself from years of cutting men off for not being perfect. I have gone on some really great dates lately with people who I would have cut off immediately in the past and am enjoying less rigidity in dating for me. All of this to say, that is why I didn't leave immediately upon seeing the flag.

The conversation about the flag was respectful, he listened to what I had to say and he said if we continued to see each other he would take it off his truck. However, even the fact he had it up just feels icky to me.

I'm feeling conflicted about the whole thing because I know that if I was dating how I was before I wouldn't have this dilemma because I already would have cut it off but I really felt a connection and he expressed he did too. The spark during our first kiss was actually electric but I'm not sure I can get past the flag. (I am sure I can't get past it I'm just bummed to lose the connection). I haven't felt a connection/attraction this good in a long time.

Maybe this is more just venting rather than wanting advice but if anyone has thoughts I'd like to hear them. Please don't be rude.

With no real movement from the federal government, state and local law enforcement—along with private litigants—have begun pushing for access to evidence.

My sister (27F) was visiting my wife (32F) and me (33M) the other day.

An important thing to note about my sister is that she has a child (5M) with her now ex-boyfriend (27M). When my sister found out she was pregnant, she told her then boyfriend that she was pregnant. He wanted to marry her in a shotgun wedding of sorts, but my sister said no. The only information she offered up was that there was no way they would be compatible in the long term, and I don't think its any of my buisness to probe or question her about it. Soonly after, my sister and her boyfriend broke up, but they established a healthy co-parenting relationship, and both now have 50-50 custody with stable, well-paying jobs, and live close-by to each other.

My wife strongly thinks that my sister should have gotten married, and hates that my sister refers to her ex-boyfriend as her "baby daddy." I don't think my sister really cares that she had a child out of wedlock, but every time my wife meets my sister, she brings up the fact that she should try to get her boyfriend back and ask him to propose again and asks why she does not want to marry him, especially since my sister has been single these past 5 years. It has gotten to the point that she has told me privately that she is fed up with this and has asked me to speak to my wife about this, which I have.

The other day, my sister visited my wife and I at our house. We were having a normal conversation, and my sister was talking about her son entering kindergarten, and all the ways she was preparing him. The convo seemed pretty mundane, until my wife once again brought up that my sister should try to get married at the courthouse with her ex-boyfriend, and that the other parents would view her as immature and would think of her child as "illegitimate" if she didn't. Before I could even jump in and say anything to difuse the situation, my sister was raging, and said that my wife should "worry about her fat self and losing 100 pounds" before worrying about her child and that "a ring can't hide her triple chin and to worry less about her going to the courthouse and more about the gym."

My wife has always been on the bigger side, and I absolutely love and adore her, but it is one of her biggest insecurities. She ended up sobbing while my sister grabbed her things and left. This whole argument took around two minutes, and I froze up and didn't really know what to do.

After my sister left, my wife asked why I didn't say anything to defend her to my sister. I was honest and said I thought that she was wrong for calling my sister "immature" and her child illegitimate. While I acknoweledged it was wrong for my sister to make the comments she did, I don't think they were completely unprovoked.

My wife is now giving me the silent treatment. So, Reddit, AITA?